"I really needed to swim out to the wave"

quotes from Raquel Welch, April 2010:

Today, Raquel says she has a great relationship with her kids, but it took work. "I just started out realizing that I really needed to swim out to the wave. I needed to take a lot more initiative and just keep letting them know that I wanted to be there in their lives with them, that I had something I could offer to them," she says. "Little by little, the disappointment or the lack of confidence they had in me melted away."
http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Sex-Symbol-Raquel-Welch-on-Aging/6

Marilyn [Monroe] oozed "availability," which was how we young girls felt hormonally, though we had to put a lid on it. What troubled me back then was the fact that as hypnotic as Marilyn was to watch, she gave the impression of someone who could be easily taken advantage of and who couldn't fight back . . . like my mother. For that reason, I didn't want to be like her at all. She was an accident waiting to happen. Later, I saw that there were some men who could be protective. That was reassuring, but then they might end up taking ownership of you. Being a girl was like walking a tightrope.
http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Excerpt-Raquel-Welchs-Raquel-Beyond-the-Cleavage/10