Care more if there was something wrong with me

Dr. Phil show about Aimee, an anorexic and bulemic woman:

After introducing Aimee to the doctors, Dr. Phil tells her, “You said something at the end of your taped piece, which I know you were watching. You said, 'I'm so afraid that Dr. Phil is going to think I'm fat.' Why do you think I care whether you weigh an extra 20, 30, 40 pounds? Do you think I would think less of you?”
When Aimee nods, Dr. Phil asks, “Why?”
“I don't know,” she says. “I've always thought that people would care about me more if there was something wrong with me. And I thought that if I had a little bit of extra weight on, you just wouldn't think that I was sick enough to give me any kind of help.”

“Do you feel the pull to want to go be alone with your disease?” Dr. Phil asks her.
She nods. “Mm-hmm.”

Dr. Phil: "There's a point at which she's got to say, does she not, ‘I'm going have to give some control over to people who have a clearer view than I.’”

Dr. Fields: "Because the decision ultimately is up to you, and you've got to let go of the control."

Jennifer, who overcame anorexia: "I have to say, over the past eight months, I had to give up a lot of the control in order to gain my life back, but I decided that I didn't want to live like a vegetable anymore. I didn't want to be cared for and taken care of and so dependent upon my parents, and I think there's a little — just a little spark of hope within you that wants that as well. And if there is, I want to do whatever I can to inspire you to really conquer this because you can do it. It is possible.”

Dr. Phil: “You've got to be willing to give up some control here and trust that people around you love you and care about you and want to help you. Give yourself this chance. We're not going to do it to you; we're going to do it with you. OK? We're in this together. Deal?”

“Yes,” she says.

http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/1031/